Valentine’s Day as a Christian Single | Advice, Struggles, Encouragement & GOD’s Word | John Giftah

0:01 Speaker 1: Do you ever look around and think, Wow, the world

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0:41 Speaker 1: Welcome to Fuel for the Soul with John GIFTA.

0:49 Speaker 2: Hey there, fellow single waiting for God to bring the

0:53 Speaker 2: right person into your life. I don't know a bit

0:56 Speaker 2: what mindset you're watching this video. Maybe you are upset,

1:01 Speaker 2: or you're discouraged, or you're failing frustrated. Oh my goodness, John,

1:05 Speaker 2: another Valentine's Day and I'm still single.

1:09 Speaker 3: Why I'm not able to meet the person of my dreams?

1:12 Speaker 2: Why am I able to see other people, you know,

1:14 Speaker 2: walking in this dream and I'm not able to see this?

1:17 Speaker 3: What is God doing with my life? Are you frustrated? Well?

1:21 Speaker 3: I want you to hear me out right. I want

1:23 Speaker 3: you to hear me out.

1:24 Speaker 2: I'm not preaching this from a place of like, you

1:27 Speaker 2: know what, I've figured everything out and I'm you know,

1:30 Speaker 2: in a better place in this area. But I want

1:33 Speaker 2: to share this to encourage you because I understand the pain.

1:36 Speaker 2: I understand the struggles. I understand the opposition that you face.

1:40 Speaker 2: I understand the questions that you may have, and so

1:43 Speaker 2: I want I want to talk to you directly from

1:45 Speaker 2: that so that it will be a blessing.

1:48 Speaker 3: All right, So a stent formost.

1:50 Speaker 2: I want you to understand the minute you go on social media,

1:54 Speaker 2: the minute you hear another person like, oh my gosh,

1:57 Speaker 2: this person who is my friend or my classmate or

2:00 Speaker 2: my close associate is getting married, and you feel like,

2:03 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, when is my turn?

2:05 Speaker 3: Why isn't it happening for me? Why isn't this working

2:08 Speaker 3: out for me?

2:08 Speaker 2: Or you switch on your social media or turn on

2:12 Speaker 2: anything right you see the feed full of people you

2:16 Speaker 2: know progressing in your life in this area or in

2:19 Speaker 2: other areas, and.

2:20 Speaker 3: You feel like, what is happening?

2:23 Speaker 2: Well, I want you to understand something here, guys, that

2:26 Speaker 2: God still has a plan for you and you are

2:29 Speaker 2: right on schedule in God's time. See first thing I

2:34 Speaker 2: want you to understand it when you look at Luke.

2:36 Speaker 2: Chapter one talks about two different instances of a baby

2:39 Speaker 2: being born. Okay, one is talking about John, not John Gift,

2:45 Speaker 2: John the Baptist being born for Zacharai and Elizabeth, and

2:48 Speaker 2: the other is talking about Jesus being born to Mary.

2:51 Speaker 2: Here's the thing, right, The same chapter talks about two cases.

2:56 Speaker 2: For Zacharai and Elizabeth, it happens at a time when

2:59 Speaker 2: they're too old. It seems like it's too late. Whereas

3:03 Speaker 2: for Mary, she's not even married yet. And here's the

3:06 Speaker 2: thing I wanted to understand that it seems like it's

3:09 Speaker 2: too early. What I want you to understand is that

3:13 Speaker 2: for somebody else it may happen quicker than you think.

3:16 Speaker 2: For somebody else, it may happen later than you think.

3:19 Speaker 2: But that's where you trust the timing of God. Just

3:23 Speaker 2: because it has not happened yet in your life does

3:26 Speaker 2: not mean it's not going to happen.

3:28 Speaker 3: It just means.

3:28 Speaker 2: That means that at the right appointed time by God,

3:32 Speaker 2: God will do what he has promised you.

3:36 Speaker 3: I want you to understand.

3:37 Speaker 2: See, for example, when you're traveling from one nation to another.

3:40 Speaker 2: If you're traveling from India to Singapore, or from London

3:44 Speaker 2: to America, what do you do.

3:46 Speaker 3: The first thing you do is.

3:47 Speaker 2: Change the time on your watch, because when I'm traveled

3:50 Speaker 2: to Singapore, I cannot use the watch still showing me

3:55 Speaker 2: the time of India. It's going to be a problem. Right,

4:00 Speaker 2: you change to that time. You adapt to that time

4:04 Speaker 2: when you travel to another nation.

4:06 Speaker 3: Same way when you say yes to God.

4:08 Speaker 2: And his plan and his will over your life, you

4:11 Speaker 2: need to adapt to his timing all your life. So

4:15 Speaker 2: don't let society put you in that mold and say

4:19 Speaker 2: you are too late. It's not about the time said

4:23 Speaker 2: by society. You don't have to worry about expectations laid

4:26 Speaker 2: by you by society. Society doesn't define your life. God

4:31 Speaker 2: defines your life. It's not about the time set by society.

4:35 Speaker 2: It's about the time said by God. Say yes to God.

4:41 Speaker 2: Sometimes people come and say, you know what, Oh, I

4:43 Speaker 2: can't wait for you to get married, and in reality,

4:46 Speaker 2: you know you look at them.

4:47 Speaker 3: They don't even care about you.

4:49 Speaker 2: You don't have to worry about opinions of people who

4:51 Speaker 2: don't even.

4:52 Speaker 3: Care about you. Learn to live your life.

4:55 Speaker 2: To please God, not to please people, not to be

5:00 Speaker 2: in the good books of everybody.

5:01 Speaker 3: That's not your job.

5:02 Speaker 2: Your job is to do the will of God at

5:04 Speaker 2: the right time, God will do what he needs to

5:06 Speaker 2: do in your life. So don't be pressured to take

5:10 Speaker 2: a step, don't make a desperate move and end up

5:14 Speaker 2: in a place of desperation. A lot of people mess

5:18 Speaker 2: up like that. I know so many people around you know,

5:21 Speaker 2: they out of the desperation because of the pressure set

5:24 Speaker 2: by society. They just sell like somebody, choose some option,

5:28 Speaker 2: just get it done, thinking that will solve the problem.

5:31 Speaker 2: But that leads to the rise in divorce cases all around.

5:35 Speaker 3: That's why so.

5:36 Speaker 2: Many people around are just separating, ending up in divorce.

5:41 Speaker 2: Why because they're moving out of desperation instead of moving

5:47 Speaker 2: by the leading of God. See when you think about

5:50 Speaker 2: First Samuel, chapter sixteen. Okay, this is a very powerful revelation.

5:54 Speaker 2: This is a very powerful thing. I want you to remember.

5:56 Speaker 2: There's a moment when Prophet Samuil is about to and

5:59 Speaker 2: knowing the next king of Israel, and he goes to

6:01 Speaker 2: Jesse's house and Jesse does not line up David. He

6:04 Speaker 2: lines up the rest of the sons and you just thinking.

6:07 Speaker 2: I want you to understand that Prophet Samuel did not

6:10 Speaker 2: desperately choose one of the sons of Jesse just because

6:14 Speaker 2: they were the ones available, or they were the ones

6:16 Speaker 2: in front of him. He did not just choose one

6:19 Speaker 2: of the options that was standing in front of him.

6:22 Speaker 2: He was determined to be led by God. Even when

6:25 Speaker 2: he was about to make a mistake, God spoke to

6:27 Speaker 2: him and said this is not the one. And he

6:29 Speaker 2: continued to be led by God, and he said, are

6:32 Speaker 2: you sure these are all the sons you got? You know,

6:35 Speaker 2: imagine second guessing the Father himself right and saying are

6:38 Speaker 2: you sure? And to a point where he did not

6:41 Speaker 2: stop till David was called in, and God said, that

6:45 Speaker 2: is the one I have chosen, and he went and

6:47 Speaker 2: chose David and anointed David. I want you to understand today,

6:51 Speaker 2: your saints of God, don't just desperately choose somebody just

6:55 Speaker 2: because they're the ones available, just because they are the

6:58 Speaker 2: options in front of you, but rather be.

7:01 Speaker 3: Led by this heredit of God. Don't go by what.

7:04 Speaker 2: You see, go beyond what you see to say, you

7:07 Speaker 2: know what, I don't have the leading. I'm sorry, I

7:09 Speaker 2: can't choose this person. Hey, the Holy Spiritual doesn't want

7:12 Speaker 2: me to do this. I'm not going to do this

7:14 Speaker 2: out of desperation, because a lot of people make mistakes

7:17 Speaker 2: out of desperation and choose something just to get it

7:20 Speaker 2: done with and realize that that led them to more destruction.

7:24 Speaker 3: Don't let that happen to you.

7:27 Speaker 2: Don't choose one of the sons of Jesse just because

7:31 Speaker 2: your David has not yet reached.

7:35 Speaker 3: Your place. Wait for your David. Wait for your David

7:39 Speaker 3: at the right pointed time. God will bring the David.

7:43 Speaker 3: Just the disclaimer.

7:44 Speaker 2: He Sometimes people talk about physical attraction and people think, oh,

7:47 Speaker 2: you know what, if your really spiritual physical attraction should

7:50 Speaker 2: be thrown out of the window. No, people quote the

7:53 Speaker 2: same passage and say, see when Samuel was about to

7:57 Speaker 2: annoint Heally, I'm thinking, wow, this man looks like he's

8:00 Speaker 2: the suitable one. God says, no, I look at the

8:03 Speaker 2: inside the heart, and man looks out the outside. And

8:06 Speaker 2: people take that to say that, you know what, all

8:09 Speaker 2: that matters is the heart and not the appearance, and

8:13 Speaker 2: not the physical attraction. People say, oh, you're being shallow

8:17 Speaker 2: if you're looking at physical attraction, or you're not trusting God.

8:22 Speaker 2: You're not being led by the spirit if you are

8:24 Speaker 2: expecting to look at the outward. But he can I

8:27 Speaker 2: tell you something the minute David comes into the scene.

8:30 Speaker 2: Do you know what is the first definition of David?

8:34 Speaker 2: How the Bible describes David. He doesn't call David the

8:38 Speaker 2: man of the God's own heart. You know. The first

8:40 Speaker 2: definition of David is that if you look at a

8:42 Speaker 2: nalty version, it says he was dark in ansen with

8:47 Speaker 2: beautiful eyes. In the other version, it says he had

8:50 Speaker 2: a very fine appearance. In another version, it says he

8:54 Speaker 2: was very attractive. See, here's the thing about you. To understand,

8:58 Speaker 2: God is not going to ask you to marry someone

9:00 Speaker 2: that you're not attracted to. The one David that God

9:04 Speaker 2: is going to bring into your life will not only

9:06 Speaker 2: have a good heart, but will also be attractive, the

9:11 Speaker 2: one that is pleasing in your sight, the way God

9:15 Speaker 2: is wired you for. That's why don't be pressured to

9:19 Speaker 2: choose someone that you're not attracted to. You need to

9:22 Speaker 2: have that because that's the way the Bible talks about it,

9:27 Speaker 2: even in the stories in the when you talk about

9:29 Speaker 2: Song of Solomon, when you think about how Adam reacted

9:33 Speaker 2: when you saw Eve, or when you think about all

9:35 Speaker 2: the love stories in the Bible, it all comes to

9:38 Speaker 2: talk about that God did not say that you should

9:42 Speaker 2: choose someone just because they have a good heart. Okay.

9:46 Speaker 2: The warning is, don't choose someone just because they're attractive.

9:50 Speaker 2: Choose the David who not only is attractive but also

9:54 Speaker 2: has a good heart.

9:56 Speaker 3: Okay.

9:57 Speaker 2: And in the most and the other thing I want

10:00 Speaker 2: to talk about or I want to challenge you, is

10:02 Speaker 2: like I said in the Season of Waiting, develop your

10:06 Speaker 2: walk with God.

10:08 Speaker 3: Just keep depending on him. Do what you're supposed to do.

10:11 Speaker 2: Like Ruth was not sitting in the house and expecting

10:14 Speaker 2: Boas to come. It would never happen. She went to

10:17 Speaker 2: her field. Do what you're supposed to do. Go to

10:20 Speaker 2: your field of purpose. Ruth and Boas met at the field.

10:25 Speaker 2: Adam and Eve met in the garden. The field right

10:28 Speaker 2: field is your field of purpose. You focus on doing

10:31 Speaker 2: the will of God. Field of purpose that God has

10:34 Speaker 2: placed you in the right time. God will bring the

10:37 Speaker 2: right person across it. But God brought Eve, God brought

10:40 Speaker 2: Ruth and Boaz together. God knows what to do, so

10:44 Speaker 2: trust him. But John, it seems like it's never gonna happen.

10:49 Speaker 2: It should have happened by now. You don't know how

10:52 Speaker 2: God is going to make it happen. Ruth and Boaz

10:56 Speaker 2: never you won year earlier that they were gonna meet.

11:00 Speaker 2: Ruth had a backstory. She was a widower, so she

11:04 Speaker 2: was a widow. Boys was already an old man. Think

11:08 Speaker 2: about this. You may have baggages and labels saying you're

11:12 Speaker 2: too old, or that you have a backstory, maybe a divorce,

11:17 Speaker 2: or you went through a breakup that was nasty, or

11:21 Speaker 2: you have some kind of a backstory to your life.

11:24 Speaker 2: Maybe you are divorce or maybe you're a widow or widow.

11:28 Speaker 2: But here's the thing about in understand it is beautiful

11:30 Speaker 2: how God in spite of their story, in spite of

11:33 Speaker 2: their labels, God still had a beautiful story for them.

11:35 Speaker 2: I want you to trust that God still has a

11:38 Speaker 2: story for you. God still has a plan for you,

11:40 Speaker 2: and He is going to make it happen in your life.

11:43 Speaker 3: Trust him. Trust him.

11:47 Speaker 2: One of the scriptures that I love the most so

11:49 Speaker 2: much is found in the Book of Corinthians when it

11:52 Speaker 2: says in the message version, stop wishing you as someplace

11:56 Speaker 2: else or with somebody else where you are right now

11:59 Speaker 2: is God plan for your life. Live, love, and obey

12:04 Speaker 2: right here, knowing this is where God wants you to be.

12:07 Speaker 2: That is the worst. I want you to get into

12:09 Speaker 2: your spirit, this is the worst. I want you to meditate.

12:12 Speaker 2: Every time I'm discouraged, you know, or when i feel

12:15 Speaker 2: like all the opposition comes, you're like, oh, just settle

12:18 Speaker 2: for something, just get it done with.

12:19 Speaker 3: Always go back to no. I want to be led

12:22 Speaker 3: by the Holy Spirit.

12:23 Speaker 2: Even if it takes longer time of waiting, it's worth it.

12:28 Speaker 3: Instead of rushing and making a mistake, don't let that

12:32 Speaker 3: be you. Don't let that be you.

12:35 Speaker 2: Don't allow the pressure from society and other people around

12:38 Speaker 2: you to cause you to make a mistake. Your life

12:44 Speaker 2: is precious. God's plan for you is precious, surrendered to him,

12:49 Speaker 2: and I believe and decree and declare that at the right,

12:52 Speaker 2: beautiful time, God will make all things beautiful and you

12:55 Speaker 2: will look back and say, wow, look what the Lord

12:58 Speaker 2: has done.

13:00 Speaker 3: Will do amazing things.

13:01 Speaker 2: And if you're someone who's watching after you went through

13:03 Speaker 2: a divorce, or you went through a breakup, or went

13:05 Speaker 2: through something where you have a baggage, I want to understand.

13:08 Speaker 3: I want you to understand God still has a plan

13:10 Speaker 3: for you.

13:11 Speaker 2: People in society they may talk about you, can I

13:15 Speaker 2: tell you something. They're not going to come and pay

13:16 Speaker 2: your bills. They're not going to be with you when

13:18 Speaker 2: you are in trouble. So choose the one that God

13:22 Speaker 2: leads you too. You don't have to worry about the

13:25 Speaker 2: people whose opinions don't matter. Worry about the opinion of God.

13:29 Speaker 2: Whether he approves it, then go for it and wait

13:33 Speaker 2: till He approves the person in your life. And I

13:36 Speaker 2: pray the name of Jesus, and I release this word

13:39 Speaker 2: that as it encourages me. This is the way God

13:42 Speaker 2: encourages me through his word. I want you to be encouraged.

13:45 Speaker 2: If you are a fellow single like me, you're waiting

13:48 Speaker 2: on the Lord. I believe that at the right time,

13:51 Speaker 2: he's going to show up in my life.

13:52 Speaker 3: He's going to show up in your life. He is faithful,

13:56 Speaker 3: He's an awesome God. Do you believe it.

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