How to be Sensitive to Other People's Feelings? | John Giftah | Christian Sermon

0:01 Do you ever look around and think, Wow, the world is a crazy

0:06 place and it just seems to get crazier and crazier. Ease your mind and

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0:39 Gifta International. Welcome to Fuel for the Soul with John Gifta. Without we

0:53 all come through moments when we come across somebody who's upset, who's just gone

0:59 through a loss, failure, And those are moments when you meet with them.

1:03 You may have good intentions when you want to help them. You want

1:07 to meet with them because you want to encourage them, cheer them up.

1:11 But today I want to share something very important with you guys from Second King,

1:15 chapter two on what to do when you meet with people who are upset.

1:19 They went through a loss, they went through a failure when they lost

1:23 a loud one and they're in a moment where they're really disturbed about something.

1:29 And yes, a moment when the word of the Lord had come saying that

1:34 this was going to be the final day for Elijah, who's going to be

1:38 taken up to heaven. And so you can imagine Elishah who had spent so

1:42 many years serving Elijah. He worked with Elijah for a long period of time.

1:49 See, I want you guys to understand this important truth. Guys,

1:53 Elijah was a human being like you and me. He could have had emotions,

1:59 he could have been disturbed. Right now, I still remember when it

2:04 was the final year of a four year residential program in college, four years

2:08 and at the end of it, many of us were actually crying because we

2:12 won't see our friends, you know, four years, and we were crying.

2:15 And it was not just four full years, right, We had times

2:20 when we went on vacation and all of those things, so there was not

2:23 full four years, but still spending that four years roughly made us cry because

2:30 we were going to miss them. Can you imagine how painful it would have

2:35 been for Elisha who had spent ten years and more serving eli Jah. Think

2:43 about it, and here's the thing I wanted to understand. Verse three,

2:46 a group of profits from Bethel came to Elisha and asked it, did you

2:51 know that the Lord is going to take your master away today? Did you

2:53 know? On a similar note, the profits from Jericho came and asked him

3:00 the same thing in verse five, did you know that Lord is going to

3:02 take your master away today? You see, Elisha knew about it. Sometimes

3:08 you have to understand when you know that they know about it, you don't

3:12 have to go and make them be reminded of that again and again. You

3:17 know you failed. You know it's so hard to get a job. I

3:23 know you lost your job. You don't have to go and remind them of

3:27 the pain that they are in. A lot of people do this. You

3:31 know what Elishah reply, Yeah, of course I know, but be quiet

3:38 about it. This is what he says in verse three as well as in

3:42 verse five. Of course I know, Elisha knew. You guys, you

3:46 need to understand when you are meeting up with somebody who's at a loss,

3:51 you don't have to go and remind them and provoke them and make them feel

3:54 more miserable. The other day, a friend of mine my workplace was sharing

4:00 how when he lost his sister or sister in law. Unexpectedly, a lot

4:06 of people came to greet the family after that when they were grieving their way

4:13 through this, and he said, many of them don't know what to say.

4:17 They're coming and saying, maybe you should have taken it to a different

4:21 hospital, maybe you should have done this, Maybe you should have checked whether

4:26 she was really dead before burying. What if they had simply done this just

4:30 to make money, And you know, all sorts of stuff people are saying.

4:33 And he said, you know, it made us even more worse than

4:38 the fact that we lost her. I love what require and said when somebody

4:44 asked him how he felt when he tells with the loss of his son,

4:48 he said, you know, when people came, they some of them said

4:55 all sorts of stuff just to make him feel happy. When he gave this

4:59 line, he said, yes, it's good you show up. It's good

5:02 that you come and stand by us when we are going through this tough time.

5:08 But please shut up. He said that show up, but shut up.

5:13 I don't know who needs to hear this, but when you are meeting

5:15 with people who are going through a tough time, I'm not just talking about

5:19 loss of loved one. It could be when somebody is suffering from maybe a

5:25 sickness, maybe when somebody is suffering from a failure in an examination, when

5:30 they're crying because they didn't do well in something, or maybe they lost a

5:34 job. That's not the time for you to get preachy and go and try

5:38 to make them feel more miserable. Stand by them, go there, encourage

5:45 them, but learn to shut up. Don't try to make things worse.

5:49 That's exactly what Job's friends did. They thought they were going there to help

5:54 Job, but they ended up having arguments with Job. Don't do that.

5:59 Don't go to a place where you make somebody who's already going through a bad

6:02 time feel bad that you are there to make it to us for them.

6:06 Don't do that. If you cannot say something nice, if you cannot heal

6:13 somebody through the words that you brain, just shut up. That's the mature

6:18 way to do today. I pray that all of you who are listening will

6:26 develop this sense of you know, a sense of maturity where you when you

6:34 meet with people, because they're of hurting people all around. It could be

6:39 in your own family, it could be somebody in your workplace, It could

6:42 be somebody in your school, your college. But what I would say is

6:46 get to a place where you say, let me just stand by and encourage

6:51 them, but let me not hurt them or provoke them or make them feel

7:00 more miserable than they are by what I do. Oh, I pray for

7:04 that maturity to fall onto every single question. Who's watching and listening in Jesus,

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